Its time again for the annual Com group beach bash. It seems like every year I dread this more and more. Its not that I don't like the beach, or the troops... Its the mandatory fun that I don't like. The big bosses decided that they have a more cohesive military if they have fun days that include family. In my reality, its a time for me to try and juggle two kids and be nice to the other wives (most of who I either don't know or don't really get along with) while my husband finds the beer and disappears. Not fun, not at all.
The baby wants to jump into the ocean while the kiddo wants to sit in a corner and be a teenager. Its not a fun time for me, and if I don't have the kids, well, then I"m not much of a loving mother am I? My idea of a fun time can include a beach, and kids and people... but I like having people that I really like, not ones that I only see during functions that have no want to know me (and vice versa) outside of these functions.
But next weekend will be better. My sister is coming down for a visit and we will do all the touristy things (dolphin cruise, yarn crawl) and then we will have real friends over for a BBQ and it will be a nice time.
I hate having to play pretty for the hubbs. It is the same thing all the time, playing nice, smiling and not having any real relationships, and knowing that they are being high schoolers behind my back and talking bad about me (her hair is bad, she looks fat in that bathing suit, her kids are weird, have heard them all). But being the loving wife, I will go and smile and pretend that there is no where else that I would rather be.
Besides, maybe this year will be different. Maybe all the other wives have grown up and don't act like 14 year olds any more... One can hope
Friday, June 24, 2011
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Wednesday comes in the middle of the week
Am working on ways to save money to pay down the credit cards and prepare for our trip to Italy. So far I've talked to my insurance company. and I found out that they never received my wind mitigation information that I turned in over 2 years ago. So I have been paying lots and lots of extra on my home owners. For three years. Not a happy camper there. But I just had a new inspection and I will be paying less in just a month. So thats good.
I also found out that when Hubby deploys I can get a discount on my property taxes! Yippi! Less in taxes (which in Florida is a great thing cause the taxes are HIGH).
And I found that I can get some construction on my roof with a grant that we qualify for and will increase the wind protection on my house. That will also save me money (it will cost some, but the savings will pay off in 4 years or one hurricane). So the saving money is working.
Now on to the knitting. I have been depressed so I have been knitting lots and lots and lots. But its all good. I do the pay it forward and finished one of the shawls for that, and then I bartered a shawl for a hat so I have that done and now I"m actually knitting for me! That never happens, but I needed to knit for me. So a Milo it is. I liked the picture so that is what I knit :)
The kiddo is getting his bike back after having it gone for almost a month for foot surgery, so hes happy too.
Now just to get the hubby and the baby happy, then I will be too
I also found out that when Hubby deploys I can get a discount on my property taxes! Yippi! Less in taxes (which in Florida is a great thing cause the taxes are HIGH).
And I found that I can get some construction on my roof with a grant that we qualify for and will increase the wind protection on my house. That will also save me money (it will cost some, but the savings will pay off in 4 years or one hurricane). So the saving money is working.
Now on to the knitting. I have been depressed so I have been knitting lots and lots and lots. But its all good. I do the pay it forward and finished one of the shawls for that, and then I bartered a shawl for a hat so I have that done and now I"m actually knitting for me! That never happens, but I needed to knit for me. So a Milo it is. I liked the picture so that is what I knit :)
The kiddo is getting his bike back after having it gone for almost a month for foot surgery, so hes happy too.
Now just to get the hubby and the baby happy, then I will be too
Friday, June 3, 2011
I've decided that I need to have goals for the next two years. I"m really good about setting long term, or very short term goals... but not medium goals. What I need to accomplish almost right now, but not before I die.
We are like the Majority of America and in debt. With a capitol D. To the sum of about $12,000. Not counting the house. Or the car. Or my student loans. That is just straight credit card debt.
I remember we we first got our first card. We were so good about only using it if we really really needed it. After Katrina visited out house, we needed it. Had only the 7 days of clothes and meds that I was told to take when I evacuated, and I really didn't expect that the kiddo would never be able to go back to his home, or that we would be moved to DC by the AF. But I regress, we were so good at just spending on it when we couldn't help it.
Then we moved to DC. Everything was so expensive! I was only working part time so that I could go to school, and we wanted to explore, so we charged, and charged.
Then we bought a house in sunny Florida when we got stationed here. Does anyone really know what a house costs? When you own, you are responsible for everything! And you want to change everything so that it is yours, not the old guys... So we spend and spend. And we always had excuses for everything! We NEED that! We HAVE to go there!
Finally got the one card paid off when the baby hurt himself on the deck and we had to tear it up and make a new deck. It was needed, just something that I was pushing back, farther and farther... so we wouldn't have to spend money that we didn't have.
Ergo the new debt. That must be gone when Hubby gets home in 2 years. We are moving to Europe next and my goal is to go debt-free. The car will be paid off, we should be able to get a renter so the house will pay for itself and well, school loans will also need to be taken care of, but I"m focusing on the credit cards.
And not buying anything not needed for reals. No more collecting yarn either. I"m on a yarn diet, spending diet and a food diet.
Let the fun begin!
We are like the Majority of America and in debt. With a capitol D. To the sum of about $12,000. Not counting the house. Or the car. Or my student loans. That is just straight credit card debt.
I remember we we first got our first card. We were so good about only using it if we really really needed it. After Katrina visited out house, we needed it. Had only the 7 days of clothes and meds that I was told to take when I evacuated, and I really didn't expect that the kiddo would never be able to go back to his home, or that we would be moved to DC by the AF. But I regress, we were so good at just spending on it when we couldn't help it.
Then we moved to DC. Everything was so expensive! I was only working part time so that I could go to school, and we wanted to explore, so we charged, and charged.
Then we bought a house in sunny Florida when we got stationed here. Does anyone really know what a house costs? When you own, you are responsible for everything! And you want to change everything so that it is yours, not the old guys... So we spend and spend. And we always had excuses for everything! We NEED that! We HAVE to go there!
Finally got the one card paid off when the baby hurt himself on the deck and we had to tear it up and make a new deck. It was needed, just something that I was pushing back, farther and farther... so we wouldn't have to spend money that we didn't have.
Ergo the new debt. That must be gone when Hubby gets home in 2 years. We are moving to Europe next and my goal is to go debt-free. The car will be paid off, we should be able to get a renter so the house will pay for itself and well, school loans will also need to be taken care of, but I"m focusing on the credit cards.
And not buying anything not needed for reals. No more collecting yarn either. I"m on a yarn diet, spending diet and a food diet.
Let the fun begin!
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
A new day, a new blog
I mean to blog... that is why I have one. That I haven't updated for over a year. So I think that I might need a new start at a new location. Its summer vacation so I will start again and hopefully I will be better :)
The hubby is getting ready to deploy so life in this house has been blah for the last few weeks. He is going to be gone for at least 6 months. I say at least because all military wives know that they say 6 but that means plus 2 weeks to get there and 2 weeks to find him a ride home and then a week or so to get him home. So if this is like his last deployment, it will be 7 or so months before I see him after July.
Then he gets to leave for a year to serve in Korea. I'm thinking that means I need to take a trip to Korea after I graduate without the children to visit. I have never been there and that would be wonderful.
But there is a silver lining! No icky work clothes to wash for almost 2 years! No sports on the TV! No tripping over his boots! And I get the bed all to myself! I hope that this will be the fastest two years in history.
The hubby is getting ready to deploy so life in this house has been blah for the last few weeks. He is going to be gone for at least 6 months. I say at least because all military wives know that they say 6 but that means plus 2 weeks to get there and 2 weeks to find him a ride home and then a week or so to get him home. So if this is like his last deployment, it will be 7 or so months before I see him after July.
Then he gets to leave for a year to serve in Korea. I'm thinking that means I need to take a trip to Korea after I graduate without the children to visit. I have never been there and that would be wonderful.
But there is a silver lining! No icky work clothes to wash for almost 2 years! No sports on the TV! No tripping over his boots! And I get the bed all to myself! I hope that this will be the fastest two years in history.
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